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Matthew Mare

Correspondent

It is advisable that, if people are no longer compatible, there is no need to use social media to destroy each other.

There are structures within your family that can be utilised, and the problem of people with nocturnal fame is that they think people have time for their stories.

To whose benefit would you destroy the person you shared part of your life with?

As a society, we have stooped so low. The attention that people give you whilst you are executing your madness is temporary but the effects are long lasting.

Zimbabwe is one country with sound societal structures anchored on Ubuntu.

These social private structures are there to solve all sorts of conflicts without impairing one’s dignity.

Social media is actually destroying this important fabric, resulting in marriages involving influential people taking retributive route rather than restorative platforms in our cultural set ups.

Social media, as it can be literally translated, is a platform where people socialise and share ideas of life. This aspect of antagonising each other is an unfortunate one whose effects remain under explored.

What does one lose if he or she takes time to heal before rushing to utter nonsense. It is central to teach people that the Internet does not forget.

What you say now out of emotions will have an impact on your next marriage.

When you have a minor problem in the next marriage, those things will be weaponised against you.

That’s when you would cherish privacy and regret why you said what you said.

Again, your children will one day ask you about your own utterances and even hate you for life because of that.

If you wage a war in life, dig two graves, one for the target and one for you, because the fight is not a strait-jacket.

You may want to destroy the next person either with lies or truth, but both have short legs that do not sustain a race.

Why vindictiveness and trying to soil each other’s image?

The problem with a lot of people is that they put a tag of the value which they do not have.

A lot of people mistake social media followers as blind.

For whatever you say or post, they will rationally examine it systematically.

People do not live on social media, and after your drama, you go to a society that will again judge you with some laughing at you.

Even friends and relatives will start to walk away from you because they do not want your wretched image to affect them.

The basic principle of life is reflection and composure when responding to anything.

Strategic communication demand planning and a SWOT analysis before you open or post anything. In future what you say or post haunts you because once awash you can’t undo it.

People must remember that the internet does not forget.

In this era of skits, people will only jeer you and make jokes out of it, thereby reducing you to become a laughing stork.

Social media is fluid, you cannot control it the way you think, events can turn against you, and you end up being a victim of your own situation.

The rate at which social media is affecting people adversely is alarming, and suicide cases are on the rise.

There are a number of cases where people end up committing suicide due to social media insults and bitter ex who post nudes to punish and expose his/her partner.

The weaponisation of social media is becoming a major source of conflicts that are of emotional disposition nature.

Why can’t people cherish the happy times that they shared together. The children will judge their parents harshly when they grow up and come across some of these toxic utterances people are sharing on social media just to attract the attention of the people.

If you have children and immediate families, be careful how you present yourself in the media. Your actions may have ripple effects on them, and it will advertently or inadvertently impair their dignity as well.

No person is an island, so consider the people around you. Do people consider how these nasty divorces affect children even at school and wherever they are? They will be scold, and this affects them just because of a lack of maturity.

You can’t be destroying yourself to please fans and followers on social media. Maybe people were following you because of that individual you are so eager to destroy.

Very few are able to maintain following after the referent point of that following is no longer in your life.

We are a society with values, where our ubuntu and social values are. Since when have we become a society that does not respect privacy.

After hearing your stories, people will start to judge you.

Hence, the old adage silence is golden. A person is as wise as he/she is silent.

Some the moment they open their mouth, the little respect left in their lives flies through the window. It is the reason why in communication, strategic planning is central and as well as packaging of your messages.

What you seek to achieve is more important than just opening your mouth to talk.

In media, your words can create a mad person in you. You expose your weaker side that people did not ordinarily know.

There is life after social media, and it takes wisdom to understand that principle. This is not to say that people must suffer in silence but should choose their medium wisely. Problems can still be solved without the camera unless it is absolutely necessary to do so.

In the recent post, most celebrities use adverse situations like breakups as a marketing gimmick, but let me reiterate that, like is not a one size fit all, what works for others might not work for you.

In military strategy, they emphasise knowing terrain and its features as an important aspect in strategy. Unfortunately, people have a culture of following the wind without hindsight of their actions.

My advice for all celebrities is to reflect before you believe that public opinion can solve all your problems.