The agony of expecting high standards from unfocused students Sending your child to college when they don’t seem to be trying very hard is a terrible reality

Latwell Nyangu Youth Interactive Writer

Don’t disappoint your guardians and parents who pay for your tuition.

At all costs, make every effort to live up to their expectations.

You get a fresh chance every day to be a proud parent and acknowledge your child’s accomplishments.

And expecting too much from your college-age children can be emotionally and physically taxing.

However, when the students aren’t paying attention to their university work, it can cause them extra suffering.

Setting high standards for students who behave in a lazy or unmotivated manner can have detrimental effects.

Sending your child to college when they don’t seem to be trying very hard is a terrible reality.

The irony is that some parents are unaware that their college-bound children are not paying attention.

The academic path is very similar to a romantic relationship in that both require effort to survive.

Not because they are dull, but rather because they are careless and indolent, many students fail.

High expectations from parents towards an indifferent student might create a difficult environment in the family.

Since they usually want the best for their children, parents may have high expectations for their academic performance, self-discipline, and seriousness about education.

However, it can cause conflict between the parents and the student when he/she is thought to be irresponsible, which might manifest as a lack of enthusiasm, a disregard for their academic obligations, or a lack of priority for their studies.

With the hope that a college education will provide success and a stable future, parents frequently devote a large amount of financial resources to their children’s education.

This week I am taking aim at students who are unfocused yet their fees are paid in full.

Some even neglect to finish their course assignments and exams.

Recently, I passed through an exam room, and saw that some students failed to write two pages. Some even left the exam room in less than 40 minutes. The result of such behaviour is failure.

Friends, nothing hurts more than not living up to the standards set by the people who are paying your fees.

I write what I observe, as always.

That bothers me more is that these students’ parents are always rushing around to make sure they pay all of the tuition fees, but all they end up with are failures. Having high expectations might be beneficial since it gives people something to aim for.

We exacerbate the situation when we humiliate ourselves and others for making mistakes. We foster impotence while adding to suffering.

High expectations can be a double-edged sword for students. On one hand, they can motivate students to work harder and achieve better results, on the other hand, unrealistic or excessive expectations can lead to anxiety, frustration, and even force students to give up on learning.

They may feel overwhelmed by the pressure to perform well in their studies, but the pressure is necessary because it comes as a motivation.

There are no dull students at universities, I previously said on this forum, as just being on campus implies that you are bright.

But what I see hurts me the most.

One of the things that our parents and guardians do for their children is to pay their tuition.

It’s a straining procedure, but unfortunately, there is little they can do about it.

But exerting effort on behalf of someone who is not sincere piles the pressure.

I wish all parents could see how their children in colleges or universities are doing.

Sadly, unlike high school, where parents are encouraged to check on their children’s progress, there is no consultation days at college.

Although universities are thought to be places for the mature, the so-called mature students don’t seem to be taking their studies seriously.

Parents and lecturers frequently chastise students who are not serious for not realising their potential or attaining academic requirements.

They can find it difficult to stay focused, to turn in assignments on time, or to demonstrate a commitment to their studies.

This may lead to sub par academic performance, missed chances for personal growth, and a feeling of under achievement.

Parental expectations that are not met and a student’s behaviour or bad attitude towards learning, can cause tension between the parents and the child, as well as worry and anxiety.

The student might feel unfairly penalised or misunderstood if they deviate from established academic standards.

Feelings of being stuck or squandering time and resources might result from this mismatch between expectations and reality.

In the end, when determining whether to continue their college education, students must take into account their personal strengths, interests, and aspirations.

To make sure that people are on a path that is in line with their values and objectives, personal growth and development should be considered in addition to the influence of societal pressures and parental expectations while making decisions about higher education.

On the other hand, parents must handle the matter with compassion and understanding.

Parents should strive to understand the underlying causes of their child’s lack of seriousness, such as disinterest in the subject matter, learning disabilities, mental health issues, or other distractions, rather than concentrating only on academic performance.

Above all, it is crucial for parents who have high expectations for their children to have frank conversations, and deal with any underlying problems.

But it is the duty of students to reciprocate the effort being put into by their parents and guardians.

Until we meet for a toast, let’s be focused

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