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Bishop B. Manjoro Dunamis
There are times in life when marriage gets so strained and out of course to the point that one opts the other way out — any way out!

To some it’s revenge that includes boiling oil and pouring it on an unsuspecting partner; axing the spouse they once cherished, loved and made vows on.

For some, separation seems the only way out and yet to others — suicide. If you are going through any of the above mentioned things, this article is for you.

It’s an article meant to heal, counsel, direct and equip you for a successful, healthy and fruitful marriage, as He planned it from the beginning. Were you wondering what to do about your marriage, but not knowing how? This is for you. Acceleration in your marriage.

God has long ordained provisions for marriage. However, before all that I want you to understand that marriage is not a man-made idea, but God’s idea and plan for mankind. It is the oldest relationship in the world.

It’s God’s institution from which communities, nations and all other relationships stem from. It is the primary or core of societies and relationships. Its well‐being depicts the well‐being of the family and nation at large as a whole.

It’s contamination or weakened condition or fall, points to the fall of a society and people.

I exhort therefore all reading this article to help build our nation of Zimbabwe through one of the greatest keys for a healthy nation — good and healthy marriages.

You could be asking if there is such a thing as a “good” marriage? Yes it can be achieved. God can do it for you and your spouse, all things are possible, Is anything too hard for the Lord? — This is a year of acceleration in all areas of life including having godly prosperous marriages.

Genesis 2:8,15-18; “The Lord God planted a garden eastward in Eden and there He put the man whom He formed . . . Then the Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to tend and keep it . . . And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meant for him.”

In the key text above, we learn that God made man and gave him work and task to do in the garden. The woman also was given her work to do. God from the beginning organised the home by assigning roles and defining responsibilities to the husband and wife. What are these?

The husband was to be a provider, the protector and the leader. God commanded him to take care of the garden and to give names to every creature we see living on earth today. This man was clever. To enjoy a successful relationship, let each man heed to the command of God to work, protect and provide for his wife and family.

When a husband deviates from this principle there is bound to be chaos in the house; husbands ought not to be lazy, doing nothing, but rather hard workers and providers of families. If you are reading this article you are a husband, but have been struggling to find work, a job or a project to sustain your family I prophesy the God of families and marriages in the Bible to lead you to your job and work in Jesus name — receive your work.

On the other hand, the woman also had responsibilities from the Lord. She was to be a helper and a comforter; to beautify the home, bring in food and clothing, home-making and being a shelter for her family, Proverbs 31.

It’s also interesting to note that the qualities and responsibilities of the Holy Spirit mentioned by Jesus on John 14:16 are synonymous with those of the wife who was to be a suitable helper to his husband and comforter.

As a wife, believe in your husband and help bring out the greatness God has put in him. Don’t wear him down, discourage him or mock him. Encourage him to find a job, to do good and let him know you believe in, respect and honour him.

(However, the husband must note that this respect is achieved through the type of servant-leadership emulated and demonstrated by Jesus.)

Isolation is a thief; God said it is not good for man to live alone. To avoid this even in the house, don’t take your mate for granted. Despite the “urgent” matters at work, or anywhere else each mate make must give attention to the other. Take your spouse as an “urgent” matter.

Do not take each other for granted, give priority to your mate, being open and honest. All other activities and business are okay, and even important, but they should not displace or substitute your spouse. Make it a point! Television, friends, newspapers, games, parties, work, projects, trips and all else should not obliterate the value of your spouse. It’s a trick of the devil to isolate, cut communication and destroy marriages. For with God all things are possible Mark 10:27.