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The blame game will keep you stuck at the same spot for life because you have someone to blame, you then see it as your comfort zone

Trymore Nyamapfeni
In our lifetime we go through a lot. To me as an African, we have extended family involved in our life. Yes that’s how it is, you cannot do without them and they cannot leave us out of the picture.

After my father passed away, my relatives took me in and I became an extra member of their family.

As we all know that when someone is raising a family he/she has to have a family plan. This is done mainly with a purpose or matching the family with the available resources to sustain a family.

I found myself living with them as part of their family. As it was enough just being with them, they took me to school well-dressed and with everything that I needed as every other child who lived there.

I did not have everything I wanted as I grew up and they could not give me everything I wanted as well. It was not because they did not want to, but it was because they could not afford to do so. Remember, I was only an additional member of a family. Circumstances forced things to go in that direction, but as Africans we are always there for each other.

The reason I am explaining this today is because there are so many people who have lived in such situations and even experienced more than I have explained. Some still have the wounds in their hearts, they still blame the past for their present.

Yes you might not have finished school because of several reasons, but do not let that hold you back and pull you down from your dream.

My fellow friends, stop the blame game because it will never take you anywhere. Some say that had it not been for their parents who did not take me to school they would be someone else in life today.

The blame game will keep you stuck at the same spot for life because you have someone to blame, you then see it as your comfort zone. This will not improve your life, instead it cripples and shortens your life.

Be a man and begin to change your life. Write down the things you fail to do and act positively on them one at a time and you will see your life changing. You will put glitters in your own life. If it is about school, start going to school no matter who you are or how old you are.

In Zimbabwe, we are very much privileged to get education at an early age. Educate yourself and stop blaming other people for your unsuccessful life. You will begin to see changes in your life.

Stop buying those luxurious things and invest in the things that will help you improve your life.

Start seeing things with a positive eye, all that happens in your life take it positively. Looking back, the hardships you went through sometimes were necessary to take you where you are today.

Some of them are what shaped our lives, the parents who gave birth to us are the most important figures in our lives no matter the life that they managed to give us, there is nothing to do to change that, but rather change your life.

Imagine our liberators — those who fought for us so that we can celebrate Independence Day — if they had continuously blamed what happened in the war zone without acting on the factors that triggered war, it would not have been possible to have a free Zimbabwe today where we own our own land and businesses and travel to any place of our liking without anyone asking questions.

I am appealing to you as an individual to fight for your own independence in your life by stopping the blame game and start acting on the goals and objectives you want to achieve in life.

Once you do this you will see that an independent life is all that we as Zimbabweans need.

The writer is a motivational speaker and is writing a book.