Today’s fathers have tough choices to make: be with the family all the time or look for food for the family. National Fatherhood Initiative (NFI) has named Dwayne Wade a recipient of a 2011 Fatherhood Award for his dedication to his two sons

Fatherhood and traditional marriage

Dr Sekai Nzenza Beaming with the joy, Philemon held his baby and announced that his Shona name was Nhamo, meaning poverty and his Christian name, rechiKristu, was Claudius. “Both these names belong t...

Love portions for a good marriage

Dr Sekai Nzenza When we were growing up in the village, we hardly saw a married couple walking, laughing, working or even eating together. My grandmother, Mbuya VaMandirowesa, said it was not natural...
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Village secrets, love affairs

Sekai Nzenza One time, in my mother’s village, my maternal grandfather fell in love with a woman from another village not so far away. That was in the late 1930’s, long before Christianity came to my...

Memories of love on Valentine’s Day

“It’s valentine’s day on Friday,” I told my cousin Piri. She frowned and said, “So?” “You may get flowers from a lover,” I said. We were drinking tea with corn bread, chimondi mwii, in Mbare, not too...

The devil passed by the village

Sekai Nzenza on Wednesday January arrived with bad winds. Deaths, illnesses and bad things have happened, forcing people around here to reflect on what could have angered the ancestors to bring so mu...
During this time of the year, everything is green in the rural areas, and the rivers are also flowing

In praise of the ancestors’ wisdom

Dr Sekai Nzenza She has never left Zimbabwe or crossed the border into South Africa like what most women traders do. Perhaps I had been a little unfair. Sometimes this lack of sensitivity happens whe...
Wearing seat belts has often prevented fatal accidents

Importance of knowledge

Sekai Nzenza WE  are driving to the village. I have been away in Australia and other places for a whole month. As usual, my cousin Piri is in the passenger seat with her bottle of beer, her legs care...
No matter how far away one goes away from Zimbabwe, one day the longing for home will get stronger

Knowing where we came from

Dr Sekai Nzenza And so people stayed close to home and married among themselves, carefully respecting totem differences. In those days, we did not marry people with the same totem. It was taboo, zvai...

Saving Zim’s image overseas

While in Australia over the Christmas break, I tried as much as I could to avoid answering or commenting on questions about Zimbabwe. Unlike other countries in Africa, Zimbabwe is such a popular coun...
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Whither the village romance

Sekai Nzenza The idea of romance, like it used to happen back in the village, was no longer the same. In the old days, a guy chased a girl, kupfimba, for a while, before she said yes. These days, it ...

Accepting life changes

She is sitting on a rock in the middle of the bush, her head bent down, forehead touching her pregnant stomach. She is crying in hysterics.

Men’s health: A taboo subject?

Dr Sekai Nzenza WHEN the men in our village get sick, they do not go to the clinic until we force them to get into a wheel barrow or a scotch cart. By that time, they are too ill to resist. That is w...

Age and the cycle of life

Sekai Nzenza The retired policeman in the village next to ours has dementia, the disease that makes you lose your memory. He cannot remember a lot of what happened today or yesterday. MuBhunu is his ...