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Lifestyle Writer–
Breaking up is hard. But when it comes to the famous, it seems as though there is twice the pain, thrice the bitterness and a million times worth of embarrassment. We are halfway through 2016, and the year has already been peppered with high-profile celebrity breakups. The story of a couple who had an acrimonious split which made the headlines in our sister paper H-Metro recently caught the attention of many and has generated a lot of debate in social spheres.

Prolific music promoter Alexandra Mutunha, affectionately known as “Anonzi Xander” is so far talk of the town after he was dumped last Monday by his one year sweetheart Zaleekhah Khan.

The two were dubbed as hip-hop powerful couple just like our favourite Jay Z and Beyonce. The two have been flaunting their love on social media and giving a new meaning to PDA at gatherings.

Interesting about the story is that the lady in question was demanding her presents back from the guy she was dating saying that he was a kept man with nothing going for him. She even accuses the dude of quaffing her kid’s cereal!

This has given rise to the question of whether differences in means can ever be ignored in the relationship matrix.

And if one gives willingly and wholeheartedly why is it that when couples reach Splitsville some partners show their displeasure through demanding back presents and other material items. Could it be that loving on borrowed time means that one must be prepared to pay back on the day of break-up?

Surprisingly, all has gone to the drain.

Anonzi Xander says he is reeling from the shock of his very public dumping and humiliation on social media.

In an interview, the producer said he was numb after being asked if he still loves her.

“She broke up with me on Monday after our one year anniversary. I tried to speak to her but she had already made up her mind.

“So I left her alone. I haven’t spoken to her ever since she broke up with me and I have blocked her on all my social media. I am surprised by what I have been reading now in the newspaper. Those chats are edited.

“Why breakup with someone then play victim. She came by my house asking for all the gifts she gave me including the laptop that was a birthday gift last December. She’s given people the impression that all I ever got her was perfume. Can she give me back all the love I gave her when she was sick, the late nights, when I loved her son, when I listened to him when she was annoyed by him . . . can she give me that? Can she give me the loyalty and faithfulness back, can she?” he queried.

If anyone can answer that then they would have solved one mystery of the ages by putting a price on the cost of love.

Zaleekhah said it was about time.

“When you meet someone and fall in love you are convinced you have found your forever mate. No-one ever plans to breakup but here we are. After almost a year together, we have decided to end our relationship.

“This is an incredibly difficult decision for both me and Alexander as we have shared more in our time together than most would share in a lifetime. As we both pick up the pieces of our hearts I pray that we heal and find peace. As our relationship was in the public eye we feel its important to let everyone know that no one fought for us harder than we did. We would kindly ask for compassion and respect of privacy as we try put this chapter of our lives behind us,” she said.

Well, so would got this case into the public domain, we would like to know. Meanwhile, Anonzi Xander is believed to have penned a heart-break song.

Rewind a few years back and we get the story of Stunner. The musician was allegedly dumped and lost gifts that his lady love had given him. Oh, did I mention that he was dumped in front of Africa on TV?

Rumour mongers state that there is another debacle of dancer Deborah Kabongo who was dating award winning beat boxer Denzel Mashonganyika, popularly known as Probeatz is said to have ended their affair after the beat boxer cheated on the bubbly beauty dancer.

The ghetto youth is believed to have been playing financial second fiddle to his significant other who comes from the right side of town.

So are women now the providers? Well, that situation is not unique to Zimbabwe. Halle Berry and Jennifer Lopes are just two female celebrities who have had to literally pay for their poor choices in love.

Some people who were interviewed by Saturday Lifestyle said the celebrities fell into relationships or got married for different reasons, with fame, fortune and power ranking highest.

“Since fame attracts fame, and money seeks money, these people find themselves involved in relationships which might lead to marriages.

But one thing they tend to forget is that when both people have fame and fortune, they to want to dominate another since they both have power.

No one can dictate to the other what to do or not do owing to their level of power, and this causes problems in such kind of relationships,” note Bruce Madombwe of Eastlea.

He added that sometimes, fame and fortune can lead to some of these couples or partners cheating on their partners because of the long working hours, work associations and other celebrity commitments.

“Most of the time these guys are living apart as they are always touring promoting their brands or productions, and one is tempted to indulge, which is not good as it leads to fractures being created in the relationship,” Madombwe said.

But Charity of Hatfield believes that marriage should be kept sacrosanct since it is an institution approved by God.

“Fame or no fame, these people should put God first before anything else.

They should learn to compromise and know why they are in such a relationship in the first place,” she said.